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2randomesq January 21, 2008 at 4:08 am
That should say “themselves OR the other…” :)
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3Jenny January 21, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Well, I have an inkling about why someone would choose a jerk-like dumping method — it’s all about the confrontation. No one likes it, almost everyone would rather chew their own arm off than be honest enough to dump someone properly.
I mean, what’s to like about this type of situation? When you’re dumped, you’re essentially being fired from the job of Significant Other. It takes a certain kind of person to either fire or weather being fired with grace and frankly, most of us (men and women alike) aren’t that kind of person. When we’re dumped we go nuts. And when we dump someone, we just want to go away, quickly.
Cowardly, spineless, whatever. Avoiding pain is a powerful instinct, just as the desire to pair-bond is. Apparently, that’s all this dumper-guy can do, act on instinct. Better to know that now, I say.
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4mssinglemama January 22, 2008 at 3:06 am
Jenny you’re right – confrontation is one of the most frightening things us little humans have to face. I have been guilty of all of these methods of dumping – hence my knowledge of them. I have learned though and since becoming a single mom – have always used the honesty route. I’m pretty proud of my evolution!
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2randomesq January 21, 2008 at 4:08 am
That should say “themselves OR the other…” :)
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3Jenny January 21, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Well, I have an inkling about why someone would choose a jerk-like dumping method — it’s all about the confrontation. No one likes it, almost everyone would rather chew their own arm off than be honest enough to dump someone properly.
I mean, what’s to like about this type of situation? When you’re dumped, you’re essentially being fired from the job of Significant Other. It takes a certain kind of person to either fire or weather being fired with grace and frankly, most of us (men and women alike) aren’t that kind of person. When we’re dumped we go nuts. And when we dump someone, we just want to go away, quickly.
Cowardly, spineless, whatever. Avoiding pain is a powerful instinct, just as the desire to pair-bond is. Apparently, that’s all this dumper-guy can do, act on instinct. Better to know that now, I say.
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4mssinglemama January 22, 2008 at 3:06 am
Jenny you’re right – confrontation is one of the most frightening things us little humans have to face. I have been guilty of all of these methods of dumping – hence my knowledge of them. I have learned though and since becoming a single mom – have always used the honesty route. I’m pretty proud of my evolution!